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should i get married at 18?
long story short, i got engaged at 17 and im planning on getting married in march of 2012. i feel like im going to be deprived of so much and at the same time i love him. i already gave up going to my dream college and a trip to greece for him but im really afraid of whats to come. the only way we could truly be together is if we get married because of our long distance relationship.. and i mean lonngggg distance. someone please give me BLUNT advice. i truly love this man though.
1)This is a very young age to get married- that means statistically your chances of a divorce are quite high, around 75%. You are much more likely to have a successful marriage if you are 24 or older.
2) You don’t really know the guy at all, nor do you know if he’s honest and has good intentions. It’s easy for anyone to pretend to be anybody in a LDR.The only way you can know if someone is truly honest and has good intentions, is by observing their actions for many months. Word speak words but actions speak volumes.
3) You should never sacrifice your education for ANYONE. You will pay for your lack of a college education the rest of your life. Love doesn’t pay the bills.
If you really mean that much to your boyfriend, he would be willing to wait for you, and you could wait for him….until you’ve graduated college, or are close to graduating.
You would be stupid to get married at 18. You would end up resenting him for the dreams you gave up and so would he.
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Age is just a number. Its not about how old you are, but how mature you are as a person. Some can and do great getting married young, while others should wait a much longer time. Depends on the couple really.
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You are very young. You do not understand how resentful you will be if you get married too young. You will lose your youth so fast. Take it from me, time flies really fast… You need to decide if he’s worth it. But if you love each other you BOTH will compromise…
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Please consider postponing your engagement. If he truly loves you, he’ll wait for you. SO much happens between the ages of 18-21. You’re already afraid you’ll miss out on many things – if you marry him now, are you going to regret not going to college? Not going to Greece? It’s very possible that you’ll end up resenting him for those things later, even if it doesn’t feel that way now. Consider going to your dream college. If he’s truly the one for you, he should encourage those dreams, and he should wait until you’re really ready for marriage. Marriage takes a LOT of courage, sacrifice, and patience. If he’s not willing to wait, then trust me, he’s not ready for marriage.
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